Mentoring Quotes to Move You

Oprah Winfrey said it best.
“For everyone of us that succeeds, it’s because there’s somebody there to show you the way out,” she said.
Let’s think about it. Do you remember the first person who pushed you just a little harder? You didn’t want to do it. You kicked. You screamed. Even though, your initial response was the same result. And then, you tried it. You gave that extra leap and everything changed.
That’s what it feels like to have a mentor. You will be pushed. You will be skeptical of the suggestions, but they will move you in the right direction.
January is National Mentoring Month, which is honestly one of my favorite months. I work for a youth development organization. The organization offers many unofficial mentoring opportunities to the youth and people in the community. In commemoration of this month, I compiled a list of ten mentoring quotes to move you.

“If I have seen further it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.”
– Isaac Newton

“In learning you will teach, and in teaching you will learn.”
– Phil Collins

“The mediocre leader tells.  The good leader explains.  The superior leader demonstrates.  The great leader inspires.”
– Gary Patton

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
– Maya Angelou

“What I need is someone who will make me do what I can.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

“If you get, give, if you learn, teach.”
– Maya Angelou

“If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else.”
– Booker T. Washington

“You can only mentor somebody if they want to be.”
– Phil Ramone

“What you want in a mentor is someone who truly cares for you and who will look after your interests and not just their own. When you do come across the right person to mentor you, start by showing them that the time they spend with you is worthwhile.”
– Vivek Wadhwa

Are you moved? I hope so. Are you interested in serving as a mentor? I have the solution for you. It’s the 5 Tips to Being a Great Mentor.

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The Write Block Wednesday: December Writing Prompt

Here we are in week two of December! This month’s focus for The Write Block is the holidays. Last week’s prompt was on the winter fondest memory. I will be sharing that with you all later this week. I can’t wait!

Don’t forget the rules for The Write Block Wednesday!

This week’s theme is:

Holiday Dessert

The Write Block will be back in 2016. It’s where a group of writers do what we do best – write! If you are interested in joining the group, please e-mail me at

❤ Starkey

The Write Block Wednesday: December Writing Prompts

Hey ya’ll! We are officially at the last month of 2015. For this month’s The Write Block Wednesday, I wanted to start focusing on a theme. December is considered “the most wonderful time of the year.” This month focus on the holidays.

Are you new to The Write Block and Being Starkey? No worries.

Here are the rules to The Write Block Wednesday:Rules-

This week’s theme is:

Favorite Winter Memory

I will be sharing mine tomorrow on Being Starkey! If you are interested in participating in a face-to-face workshop, please e-mail me at

❤ Starkey

Truth Be Told: I Didn’t Get It Done

There’s no better way to say it – I didn’t get it done! If you’ve been following Being Starkey, then you know that I set out a quest this past month to finish my first novel Daily Navigation during NaNoWriMo or NaBloPoMo.

Before I started the challenge, I shared a few ways to stick with a writing schedule. Here are the ways, and how I managed them:

  • Reduce the amount of time I spend on social media – I stayed consistent.
  • Utilize my weekend for writing – This is where it didn’t work! I should’ve balanced my schedule better because every weekend there was something going on from sorority events, homecoming, and traveling. My weekends were swamped! 
  • Spend less time flipping through the television channels – I scheduled my writing around my television shows, but it’s the holidays and Hallmark channel will distract me. 
  • Keep phone conversations to daily commute to and from work – This is a normal routine. 
  • Exercise regularly with writing prompts – I actually created writing prompts to help me move from each chapter. It really helped. 
  • Develop an accountability partner or group – I joined different writer groups, but I never ASKED for support to help me stay on track.
  • Don’t Quit! – I didn’t quit, but I didn’t get it done. I managed to wrap up Chapter 14 at least, and start Chapter 15.

What have I learned from this experience? Everything we does come with lessons. Unfortunately, at times, our lessons are harder than others.

  • NNNNOOOOO!!!!! One of my main lesson is to learn how to say NO! I’m still learning it, but I feel like I can be everything to everybody. It doesn’t work that way. I have to consider my needs and work on those for me. I over committed myself with most things that aren’t beneficial to me.
  • Be consistent! This is the number rule from most authors and bloggers. It helps you build momentum and good following if you remain consistent in everything that you do.
  • Stick to One! I tried to participate in #NaNoWriMo and #NaBloPoMo at the same time. I will not do that again. Granted, it helped me to exercise my writing when I wasn’t working on the book, but I was trying to challenge myself to accomplish too much in 30 days.
  • Never lose your stuff! When I first started working on my book, I developed an outline using notecards. Bad move. I lost it a few months ago. I knew my end result of my book, but I missed some vital details. It literally slowed me down. This month, I outline the remainder two chapters of my book, which helped me out a lot.
  • Get Creative! Instead of writing, I spent time visualizing what I wanted to accomplish with my book. When I wasn’t writing, I was looking and examining book covers to determine what I wanted for mine. I designed some book cover options for Daily Navigation. I’ll show you all soon. I secured an editor for my book. I managed and accomplished the small things.

So did I get it done – not at all, but I developed some new strategies and know now what to do in order to accomplish my goal. Truth be told, I’m ecstatic because I might not have finished writing the book, but I’ve accomplished so much more. For my friends and supporters, it’s coming very soon.

❤ Starkey



Truth be Told: Here’s 10 Reasons Why I’m Thankful

Happy Thanksgiving Friends!

Today is the day when you gather with your close friends and family, and reflect on the things or moments that you are thankful for in your life. Since I don’t live too close to my family, I normally spend Thanksgiving with my sorority sister’s family. They took me in on the holidays and special events. Instead of having dinner Thursday, my family is taking a more contemporary approach and having dinner Saturday (my sister works retail). I digress.

I wanted to share with you all 10 reasons why I’m thankful this year.

  1. God
    I have always had a relationship with God. However, I am building a stronger and closer relationship with Him.
  2. Health
    My health is extremely important, and if you read my post last week then you read my challenge to lead a healthier life. Since then, I have been working on eating healthier meals, watching my portion size, removing salt from my daily diet, and finding non-traditional ways to move more (ie. pulling weeds out of my garden, creating an assembly line to stuff bags for work, and taking an extra walk around the building).
  3. My Family & Real Friends
    My family and friends mean everything to me. They have all shaped my life to make me who I am today.
  4. TWH
    He’s just awesome that’s all!
  5. My Career with 4-H
    I’ve been blessed with a great new career in 4-H. I’ve watched myself grow from being a bashful, list taker to a more verbal, confident person.
  6. Sanctuary Charlotte Church
    I’ve experienced the majority of my spiritual growth this year. I’m reading and learning more about His word.
  7. Support System of Writers
    One thing I’ve learned is that it’s important to have a support system in everything that you do. Sure, you can do it by yourself, but it helps to have a support team to cheer you on or push you just a little harder.
  8. A Serving Heart
    I love serving and making a difference in the community. I’m extremely thankful to be able to serve effortlessly.
  9. Sorority Sisters
    My sorority sisters, especially 7 Degrees, are a group of women willing to put their personal thoughts and feelings aside for the betterment of one cause – to enhance the quality of life in the community.
  10. Ability to Write
    As I wrap up Daily Navigation‘s first draft, I am thankful for the ability to be able to write. Tuesday night, I met one of my favorite authors, Omar Tyree, at Cocktails & Conversation hosted by Fly T Entertainment in Charlotte. I was in total awe. He was one of the reasons why I started writing.

Now, it’s your turn. What are you thankful for this Thanksgiving?

P.S. This is the response to The Write Block writing prompt for yesterday.

The Write Block Wednesday: I am thankful for…


Happy Day Before Thanksgiving! As you all remember, I re-introduced The Write Block series at the beginning of this month for my faithful NaNoWriMo or NaBloPoMo friends. I commend those who have smashed the challenge this month. I often get frustrated when I’m forced to write something, and I easily become distracted with whatever else will stimulate my mind. That’s the main reason why I created The Write Block series in the first place to develop a space for me to write without limits and share my work with likeminded individuals.

Just in case you need the rules, here you go:

Set your ideal writing mood
Using the theme, write in your journal or digital document uninterrupted for 15 minutes (Make sure you time yourself)
At the end of the 15 minutes, stop typing or put your pencil down
Read and/or share what you wrote (Remember: Sharing is optional)
Ask yourself – can you use this for a future or current project?
If so, keep it. If not, still keep it. You never know what source of inspiration will come from it.

Here’s The Write Block: Writing Prompt for this week:

What are you thankful for?

If you are in the Charlotte area, and would like to attend the next The Write Block session in 2016. Please e-mail me at

Happy Thanksgiving!

❤ Starkey